Control Series: Week 1 - Control Your Emotions

When You Control Your Thoughts & Emotions, You Control Everything.

 

Marshall Sylver

 

 

Welcome and thank you for returning to the Straight Up Mindset Blog. This is the September edition of the blog. This month's series is the Control Series and this week's topic is Control Your Emotions.

 

This topic is something that I struggle with daily. I wear my heart on my sleeve and always feel the need to respond when it's really not necessary. I was picked on and bullied as a child so I always feel the need to defend myself and prove something. Over the years I have learned that when you allow your emotions to carry you like that, you tend to hurt yourself even more so than if you just didn't say anything in the first place.

 

I've learned to pick and choose my battles and that most of the time your silence speaks volumes. Now obviously it's easier said than done when trying to control your emotions. It takes a lot of practice and fine tuning to be aware when a situation starts to get to a certain point. You really need to have a good understanding of who you are to catch yourself before you get to that point. Do I still get caught up in certain situations because of my emotions, absolutely. I have gotten better and continue to work on my control everyday.

 

Letting your emotions run wild can hinder your progress to being a better you. It can hinder your  success in whatever you are trying to pursue. It can take years of hard work, blood, sweat and tears and you throw it all down the drain. Your emotions can cause you to be petty and be perceived as very immature. Don't allow a situation or a person to get you to that point. Understand what is going on and try to anticipate the moment of escalation and act accordingly. This only happens through repetition.

 

Taking full ownership when you do slip up and then being able to self assess or take constructive criticism from those who are genuinely trying to help you. Our ego and pride can sometimes block us from learning from a situation. We naturally want to point the finger and play the blame game. So understand this, being able to control your emotions is a huge strength. It can help you avoid a lot of situations and obstacles that escalate into something that will only hurt you.

 

So do me a favor, take a step back, breath, gather your thoughts and make sure your response is of a calm nature. If you are unable to do so simply leave the situation and wait until you have calmed yourself before responding. Then come back accordingly to address the issue. Also, you can simply not respond at all. Not all situations require a response and your silence can be a louder statement than any words.

 

 

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Leadership Series - Week 4: 30 Day Challenge!!

Leadership Series - Week 3: Have A Plan

If You Fail To Plan, Then You Plan To Fail

Welcome and thank you for returning to the Straight Up Mindset Blog. This is the August edition of the blog. This month's series is the Leadership Series and this week's topic is Have a Plan.

You have established a vision, you are empathetic towards your team. The last part now is having a plan and executing that plan. You have to realize that the first 2 leadership qualities I mentioned do not really matter if you don't get the job done. If you as a leader don't deliver, then any trust or belief you did have will eventually disappear.

Being able to execute your vision and plan is not a skill that many people possess, but it is a quality that a leader must master in order to become effective. All great leaders in history had the ability to implement all 3 skillsets to achieve their goal. Now this doesn't require extraordinary talent, but it does require some self-awareness and hard work to build those skills up. This is not a simple task. I am constantly working towards this and fail and learn something new everyday. As long as you are heading in the right direction that's all that matters.

A lot of it will come through experience and mentorship. You will take a few bumps and bruises while trying to work on the skills it requires to become a good leader. It also helps if you can find someone to take you under their wing and guide you through the process. Just make sure that everyone is held accountable for their portion and EXECUTE, EXECUTE, EXECUTE!!!
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Leadership Series - Week 2: Emotional Awareness

"A Key Component Of Leadership Is Having The Ability To Understand The Emotional Make Up Of Other People"

 

 

-Straight Up Mindset

 

 

Welcome and thank you for returning to the Straight Up Mindset Blog. This is the August edition of the blog. This month's series is the Leadership Series and this week's topic is Emotional Awareness.

One of the key qualities of a leader is having the ability to understand and connect on an emotional and mental level. Truly understanding what makes their team tick, understanding why they do what they do. Also what makes them feel insecure and what they really care about.

This allows you to know how to approach each team member in different situations and get the best out of them each time. If you don't master this part of leadership, you will have a difficult time in persuading them into doing what is needed to reach a common goal. When you are connected to your team on this level you are able to develop the right type of culture and environment that breeds positive results.

I have seen how good and bad leadership can make or break a team. I've seen great employees become disengaged and have low productivity due to bad leadership. I have also seen the other side of the spectrum and notice those who normally have weak performances increase their productivity and bring even greater value to the team.

Bottom line is, when your team sees and knows that your genuinely care about them, they go the extra mile.  Having an understanding on how they feel makes them feel appreciated on a deeper level. Be aware of others emotions and what is going on with them at that time. I'm not saying hold their hands and baby sit them, that is not it at. What I am saying is understand what motivates them. Understand what issues they might have going on in their life that could possibly affect their performance and not be so results driven and cold to their feelings

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Leadership Series - Week 1: The Vision

Leadership Is Not A Position Or A Title, It Is Action And Example



Welcome and thank you for returning to the Straight Up Mindset Blog. This is the August edition of the blog. This month's series is the Leadership Series and this week's topic is The Vision.

Being a leader is a very big responsibility. You are the one that everyone looks to for guidance. They entrust you to lead them on the right path. In order to do this you have to have an unwavering conviction towards your vision. You must know the direction you want your team to go. It's very important to be very sure and certain in what you are doing and where you are taking them. The journey and process can be complex and seem very uncertain at times.

The people you are leading will easily deviate from the place or the path because they will get distracted by the many variables that comes with uncharted territories. This is where your leadership helps bring them back  to regroup. Help them remember the overall plan and stay the course. A leader must also be very logical and help get everyone on the same page with the bigger picture. When people start to feel uncomfortable or unable to see the vision, you will be challenged. If you are not able to be logical and justify the ultimate goal, it can cause the team to lose confidence in you.

Lastly, the leader must be the most passionate in the entire group in whatever project is being worked. Your energy must cascade to every member, you set the tone for how the project is going to go. If your energy is low then everyone else's energy will be lower than that. Remember you are the lighthouse that guides the ships safely through the seas. If your light dims or goes out then everyone is guaranteed to crash.


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Endure Series - Week 5: 30 Day Challenge!!

Enjoy When You Can, And Endure When You Must

 

-Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Welcome and thank you for returning to the Straight Up Mindset Blog. This is the May edition of the blog. This month's series is the Endure Series and this week is 30 Day Challenge!!

It's the end of the month so you know what time it is. Let's finish out this month strong with our 30 Day Challenge. They say it takes 21 days to build a habit, well we are giving you 30!

As always we are wanting you to apply the principles we have provided to you from the previous blogs this month. It's one thing for you to read the blogs but to be effective you must also apply them.

Week 1 we said Be Strong. You will run into moments in your life where adversity will hit you hard. It will feel like every move your make doesn't work out. The burden of failure will start to weigh you down. In those moments lie the true test of your strength, you must endure. So, remember when the storm hits, just be strong and push through. You will get to the other side and you will be stronger because of it. The storm doesn't last forever

Week 2 we talked about Patience. Life is going to punch you in the mouth, its guaranteed. In those moments you must take a step back, breath and remember that this is just a moment in time that you are being tested. Nothing happens over night, good or bad. So continue to grind it out and know that you will make it, you will overcome and conquer your situation.

Week 3 we talked about Pain.  Pain and struggle are inevitable. In order to overcome it you have to know and understand and you are built for this. You will succeed if you just believe that you can. Just know that the pain you go through today will just make you stronger for tomorrow. Every challenge you go through is a learning opportunity. It's the experience that helps shape and define you

Week 4 we talked about Its Not The End. We all go through it, we've all had that overwhelming feeling come over us. This rush of panic and defeat comes filling our minds and heart. We tend to forget or underestimate how strong and capable we are. You wouldn't be here today if you were not able to get through adversity. You have to remember that this is not the end. God didn't call you to be a victim, he called you to be a victor. So go be victorious!

This week and as we do at the end of every series, we challenge you to take all we discussed in the previous weeks and start applying them to your life. We don't want you to read the blogs and just feel motivated. Motivation is not an impulse of the body or a personality trait. Motivation is
an intention and a will of a mind that wants more than to just be average. If you apply what we give you then you start to change your mindset. When your mindset changes then you start to see your life change for the better



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Endure Series - Week 4: Its Not The End

"It's Not An Ending. It's Just The Point In The Story Where You Turn The Page."

 

 

 

Welcome and thank you for returning to the Straight Up Mindset Blog. This is the May edition of the blog. This month's series is the Endure Series and this week's topic is Its Not The End.

 

We all go through it, we've all had that overwhelming feeling come over us. This rush of panic and defeat comes filling our minds and heart. Then your mindset changes from positive thoughts to negative thoughts. Then we think, its over. No coming back from this, cant fix this or that....etc

 

You have to remember that this is not the end. This is not how your story ends at all. You must realized that this is just a blip in time. A moment in your movie that you will get passed. There will come a time when you will look back on that moment and say to yourself, "Why was I so worried about that?". First, you must remember to believe in yourself no matter the situation, you will get through it. Second, you are undefeated in life. Meaning, look back on all the trials and tribulations you have been through in your life and you are still here.

 

We tend to forget or underestimate how strong and capable we are. You wouldn't be here today if you were not able to get through adversity. Yes it is tough, yes it is scary sometimes but things that are worth the effort are rarely easy to obtain.

 

So remember this, if you don't remember anything else we talk to you about in this blog or any other blog. You have heard us say this on our videos. God didn't call you to be a victim, he called you to be a victor. So go be victorious!

 

 

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